Free Parenting Resources
From Clinical Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers
Understanding Shame

​​For a long time, strict parenting AND using shame as a tool was very common and encouraged. And that's why so many of us were raised this way. The research simply hadn't been done yet to teach us any differently.

Shame casts a long shadow... and whether we intend to or not, it's a tool most of us use with our own kids.

While it might be effective in gaining compliance, it actually teaches children that THEY are not OK (rather than the behavior being 'not OK').

​​That can be extraordinarily damaging to their sense of self-esteem and self-confidence in the long-term. Shame makes us believe we are incapable of change and are unlovable.

Anxiety Zappers

After 18 years working with parents, children and families I've condensed my most effective anxiety management strategies into this value-packed PDF.

These are the ones that parents report back to me are their favorite, and the most effective with their kids.

Grab these 15 zappers to add some extra tools to your belt so you feel more confident in helping your child manage their anxiety.

Anchor Points Sheet

Here's a neat little trick you might want to try out the next time your child has to confront an anxiety-provoking situation they can't avoid (think school camp, swimming lessons, going to a birthday party - anything your child gets anxious about). Try setting an anchor point they can look forward to once it's all over.

What is an anchor point and how does it differ from a bribe?

It's a future state your child can envision that helps them through a difficult situation (think going to a friend's house, visiting the park or watching a favorite TV show). It is NOT reliant on their behaviour. 

Date With 8 Journal

If you're looking to change something in your life (and who isn't?), the key to making progress is your focused awareness. By using this guide to set an intention for your day, you'll provide a framework for your thoughts and actions that will inevitably lead to your chosen goal. You're essentially unhooking your brain from autopilot and bringing a sense of intention to all you do. 

The Date with 8 Journal helps you identify the most important things you need to do each day and encourages self-reflection. This helps us see our patterns and identify what's working (and what isn't) so we can change course if needed. 
The Animal Worry Chart

Have you ever wondered what was causing the most anxiety for your children? It's a topic that comes up constantly in the clinic, and one that parents often misjudge.

While we might think their greatest source of anxiety is XYZ, they're actually feeling completely overwhelmed by something totally different.

Complete this chart with each of your children to get an idea of what's worrying them, and where you can direct your energies to be the greatest help.

Cheat Sheet: 30 Ways To Build Connection

When we're connected with our children, we reduce power struggles, ensure they feel 'enough', 'lovable' and 'ok', and create a more enjoyable environment for the entire family.

But how do you build connection?

This cheat sheet covers 30 connection-building activities you can immediately use at home with your children.

Find the ones that work for you ... and keep doing them!

The Feelings See-Saw

Did you know we can feel anxious AND excited all at once?

This worksheet is a great tool to use with children to help them understand the ebb and flow of their emotions.

Sit with your child and write down everything that's making them anxious, and what they're excited about.

Seeing both sides of the coin can help provide a sense of perspective and a positive feeling that their anxious thoughts can be counterbalanced by their excited ones.